HTSS97 - Shutting down the inner critic in your head - Scott Sylvan Bell

Shutting down the inner critic in your head

Most people have fear and there isn’t any way to get around it. Very few people are born missing the fear gene. Our fears keeps us alive and sometimes it holds us back. Your inner dialogue is the computer program for your brain. What you tell yourself tends to come true, you program ideas and concepts into yourself. Sometimes the inner critic in your ear can be a jerk.  

There is a problem where you want protection and you don’t want to look dumb or silly. This means you may be scared to ask for help

You have to put in the hard work

Figure out why you have this impediment that is stopping you, it may take some help or some talking to. You may have to go to places you don’t want to.  Be willing to be uncomfortable and vulnerable. You do this by talking to someone who cares or is significant and wants the best outcome for your life.  

The fear of what will people say, think or do when they hear my plans or ideas.  Most people don’t remember your significant memories in life that hold you back. You believe people have 100% memory capacity and they don’t. Your biggest fear typically have zero meaning to those around you. Sometimes people will do what they can to hold you back.

How to talk to yourself  

There is the capability of replacing the thoughts you have in your head. Instead of saying I cant, I wont is there a way to change the thoughts to I can or I will?

It is possible to fall into the hater trap where you get worried about dealing with problematic people.

• You will always have haters
• You will always have critics

The worst thing to do is to allow the voice in the back of your head to stop you. The “Little Jerk on your shoulder” keeps you from taking action and making moves. You do have to reprogram the ideas and or the concepts you think of. This does take time, energy and effort. If you want to get past your  

Your influences

• The people around you matter
• You digital inputs matter
• How you encourage people matters

Confidence and the inner critic

You will want to find people that believe in you and build you up. If these people are not available in real life you can find people online or even support groups.  One idea is to remove people that don’t build you up or help you.

Be willing to share your skills and talents. Sometimes you have to do this for free to show what you have to offer. Be willing to help those in need, giving to charity does help because it removes you from the equation.  

Do things you are good at as this gives your confidence momentum.  You may have to borrow the confidence of others you can ask for reviews, testimonials and uplifting conversations.

Tell yourself why you are:

• Worth it
• Good enough
• Loved
• Wanted
• Able to create
• Willing to give to others
• Capable of being successful

There are other things you can do to close down the inner critic in your head:

• Good music
• Good company
• Books
• Interviews of people who have had adversity

You do have to find ways to shut down the inner critic or the little jerk on your shoulder. You can find ways to be better at sales.

Scott Sylvan Bell

@Scottsbell

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